Talking to Parents – A Little Communication Can Go a Long Way

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Oct 8, 2014
2 min read

Today, about 1 in 68 children In the United States are diagnosed with autism, with more children being identified than ever before. The importance of early recognition can make a huge difference in the life of a child with autism, sparing the child and their parents from a lifetime of potential frustration and misunderstandings.

As an educator, it is important to be able to recognize and evaluate the signs of autism. It is also very important to have the proper etiquette, and know what to say, and what not to say, to parents of a child whom you believe may be developmentally delayed. Being prepared will help you get a parent’s attention without offending them, or making them defensive.

Make sure to highlight the child’s strengths. A conversation with a parent is sure to go more smoothly if you give positive examples of what their child does well.
When you are speaking to a parent, use materials (like fact sheets, milestone guidelines, or medical articles) that support your concerns. This way, you are basing your assertions on facts, and not just “a hunch.”
Be specific when discussing behaviors you’ve noticed while watching over the child. Use the materials you have to draw parallels between what you have observed, and what is appropriate for children at that age. I.E. – “Michael does not play with other children.” and then show them where a child Michael’s age generally starts being sociable with other children.
Try to make sure you are having a discussion with the parent. Pause frequently, allowing for the parent to respond.
Listen and pay attention to how the parent responds. Take note of their body language and tone.
Keep in mind that this might be the first time the parent is hearing that their child may have a delay. Allow the parent time to think, and suggest that they consult with any other caregivers the child might have.
Make sure to tell the parent to consult with a medical professional soon, and before taking any other action. It is OK to say that you may just be overly concerned, and that they need to speak to a medical professional.
Remind the parent that you do your job because you love and care for children, and that your motivation is to make sure that the child has the best school experience possible.